Well apparently yahoo does not provide quality wordpress hosting. I started reading some reviews (which is what I should have done in the first place) after restoring my blog several times from malfunctions until it stopped working as a whole all together. Tomorrow I will be researching an alternative host. I apologize to anyone if this is a inconvenience. Writersaddict.com should be up in the next few days hopefully..
Writer’s Addict is moving
I purchased writersaddict.com so I imported everything over to there. Fine tuning all of my plugins and settings. Once I am done I will start posting again!
Wish I was there…
My wife sent me some pictures of it snowing back home at the time of writing this post. It was a beautiful site. The snow itself is not what made me think how much I missed home though. It was my wife waking up my son early because she could not wait to go out and play in the snow herself. It was my son smiling, hardly able to move with layers of winter clothing on and start to cry because he could not manage walking in the snow with out face planting. It was the hot cocoa my wife made served cool so not to burn taste buds. Home sickness for me never derives from the bigger things in life that I think would be missed, it is the smaller things. The thoughts that flow through my mind on how I will never get this moment back and that all I can do is remember it. These are the things that can bring anyone down, other than lots of practice why am I still standing tall?
It is always hard to be away from your companion. The best ways I find to deal with being so far apart is communicate. Always talk, talk about your day, emotions, or just the bills. Technology now a days will allow you to communicate with anyone in the world like if you are in the next room. If you continue communicating like you never left and stay honest, it will make things much easier. You will still feel like crap since you are not there to give your significant other a kiss good-bye before work or romp around the living room like children for fun. Communication will keep the heart beating strong in your relationship.
Looking at the bigger picture is a big motivator for doing what I do. It is not easy to show pride and initiative in your work if you are homesick. If you put meaning behind it will give you some more fuel to keep pushing for success. What means more to me than being there with my wife is that her and my son have food to eat and my unborn child will have as much medical as he/she needs. That is my motivator, what is yours?
There are many more small ways that can help you find your way to successfully maintaining a long distance relationship with minimal set backs. You just have to find what makes your relationship tick while distance is in there. These two ways to dealing with being away from home I think is the most important factors above anything else. What do you think is important, how do you manage this kind of situation?
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I will be away from the internet due to work until the 1st so if there is any new comments or emails. I will catch up with them when I am able to again.
How to know you are truly passionate
I see many people start something and never finish it. I am extremely guilty of this. I enjoy a many things and strive to specialize in one. When devote myself to a certain subject and then maybe a month later lose interest, it is not because I am a quitter I realized. I just enjoy everything not wanting to settle on one thing. I truly found passion when I met my wife. I even thought that it would be a fling at the beginning but when I was away on deployment I would miss her so much it hurt. When I was home I would always try to calm any rough waters even if the situation was not provoked by me. Only then is when I asked my self, “this is what being passionate about something really feel’s like.” It felt so good for the first time in my life to be devoted and not quit. I am also very good at finding way’s to utilize my self-control in any situation that is presented even if I am not passionate about it. This is why I started blogging, I wanted to share those challenges, not let them do good just for me. Helping other’s to the best of my ability is my other passion aside from raising my son (that is a passion all in itself).
Passion is everything, just like love. Once you find it you will never want to let it go. I think both go hand in hand but are two different entities. Love is a deep connection with someone who can cause severe emotional scars if broken. Passion is pure selfless devotion to something without expecting reward. I do not know text-book definitions for these two, they are my own definitions and opinions. Finding your own passion can fall right into your lap or you may spend years searching. Once you find it here is a few ways to tell that it is real and not imagined:
- You have a feeling of completeness inside of you
- Feeling comfortable doing whatever it is even if you are not particularly good at it
- When you are away from it you think of it constantly
- Feeling the same way you did for a long period of time from day one until then. (This is the important one)
- You do not act on mixed feelings because you do not want to give up what you have.
- Never losing interest, don’t get this confused with feeling drained for a moment and do not want anything to do with it.
Finding passion(s) should be incorporated into everyone’s goal set. This is what gives you reason and purpose to not linger through life-like a ghost. Everyone is different but what I want more than life itself is to leave a positive legacy behind when I am gone.
Trampling opinion
I want to cover a hot topic going on in my daily routine, I am sure many of you have been in this situation and may have had trouble coping with it. The topic is on the certain individual’s that enjoy belittling other peoples reputation when they are not around to defend themselves. Then only to be your buddy when your around. If you don’t know I am in the military, my options are limited to who I place myself around. There are few people higher in rank that tend to do this. In the military you really do not have much choices on controlling what they do. I started noticing this was happening after a couple months, I did not like it and I do not think it is professional. This started to really get to me after this and I found it hard making confident decisions relating to my job. My work performance dropped because I worried of what they might think or say, I would try so hard to accomplish my tasks certain ways and it produced negative results more than if I just trusted my self and skills. After a couple of melt downs I realized that something needed to be done or else I was heading down a path I did not care to go down. My biggest thing that drives me to work hard is the constant need to earn everyone’s respect, this is why I think this certain topic affects me like this. I work hard for respect and when I do not produce results I ask myself what am I doing wrong. In this case, I did very little wrong. I started to realize I was not the person with the problem, those individual’s were. After I talked to some other’s about this problem they assured me my work ethic was fine.
After realizing that, it made me feel much more better about the way I did thing’s. They still continue to do this not only to me but other’s as well, it creates much more tension than needed in the work environment. This is who they are and if they feel their opinion’s need to be shared, go for it. These are some of the steps I figured out on the way to work through this obstacle and I hope it helps you as it surely made my life easier and more at peace:
- Realize what is happening
If you are having this same problem even if it is under other circumstances. Take a step back. Are you really doing what they claim or is it just propaganda to further themselves at your cost. I am not telling you to point fingers or fall victim to a paranoid fit that everyone out there is against you. Look at the bigger picture, you know right from wrong. If you have any doubt’s talk to someone you trust and ask for their honest opinion.
- Know yourself
No one know’s you more than yourself. Confidence in your actions and taking responsibility for those actions are key to progressing honestly. Sometimes it takes someone else to show us something we can not see, but many other times it takes you to know what they do not see in you. Let your actions be 100% and do not hesitate, if you are doing something wrong 9 times out of 10 someone will tell you or else you find out the hard way. So unless that happens assume you are doing right (use your own judgement for right and wrong).
- Adopt selective hearing
Don’t listen to what they have to say, be honest and selfless in what you do. Your actions will speak louder than their words. These individual’s love to share their opinion, if they realize their opinion is not worth their breath they will either quit or find something else to comment on.
- Don’t keep it with you and learn from the situation
Talk with people about this, get it off of your chest. Holding anything in is not healthy. Learning from this situation as a lesson is just like any other lesson you learn in life. Take the good from it and leave the bad. By good I mean knowing confidence in what you do and how you do it no matter how much you want to think different. Allow the obstacles you overcome to tackle new ones and be a better human being. Advancing in all aspects is what makes you more than what anyone can ever say against you.
These are some of the thing’s that I use on a daily basis to close them out of my thought’s, I have to much personal stuff going on at home to worry about making work personal. I am sure you are the same way. This post was more story lined because I wanted you to know where I was coming from and I thought it was the best way to express it.
Working on Launch
I am working on launching Writer’s Addict here on WordPress. For a while I was hopping around on close to 50 different hosting sites looking for what I wanted for free, after constantly being disappointed in one way or another I decided to move back here or else launch on a paid domain. I was thinking GoDaddy.com since they seemed to have reasonable prices and I did not have to pay for several months at a time. I like to test the water’s first, if I pay for 3 months and do not really enjoy their services I can keep the domain name and move my hosting service somewhere else until I find what I am looking for. I don’t know why I am so picky, I don’t want to settle for just anything.
Anyway’s I will be working on the content offline for this site and the layout/extra’s over the next few days. I already have a few article’s saved offline and would rather post when the website is ready for traffic.
Hello!!
Hello and welcome to my blog. I am sorry there is not much to look at for the moment but I will get this place up and running soon after I get back from this upcoming trip. Thanks for your patience!!
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